What Are You Memorializing?

Did you make big plans for Memorial Day weekend? And did you think about what it is you want your kids to remember?
I am usually good about making a plan for holidays, partly because I think anticipating is half the fun. But also because I think it is important to give a bit of consideration to the family traditions we develop with our children.
All of our holidays seem to have thoughtful and thoughtless options. The thoughtful ones are those that get us thinking outside ourselves. Memorial Day options, for example, could be visiting the grave of a departed loved one or attending one of the many veterans’ memorial events that are held today.
Find out what local observances are available to you are put them on your calendar for next year. Also remember Father’s Day, Flag Day, and Independence Day are all coming up.

How about beefing up our family traditions to give our children a sense of heritage?!


Hallelujah for Endings

We agree on the best way to spend a snow day.

We agree on the best way to spend a snow day.

Today was the last day of school for DS9. It was also his last day of weekly Cub Scouts and twice weekly Taekwondo lessons.

Let me tell you I am ready for a break! The only person more ready than I am is DS9. And he is not really the reflective grateful type (yet). So I’ll think about my gratitude more often than he does.

Now I’ve given this some thought. “How can I be so happy for these endings?” Well first, I could so use a break from reminding, re-reminding, checking up, and physically prompting him every day. Or as he sees it interrupting, annoying, prying and spying. Okay, I’ll still have to do this, mainly for dog duty and dishes. But we won’t be on a schedule.

And second, these endings are temporary. He isn’t graduating or getting married or anything permanent and life changing. We still have time together. I can take a deep, oh so deep, breath and relax and just enjoy my son.

I love him. I like him, too. I want to revel in that. Now if I can relax my uptight personality and embrace the joy-that-is-ever-present-when-you-care-to-look. Does that sound like a summer vacation plan?

I think I’ll have to make three summer lists:

Work To Do’s—yeah there are things that need doing.

Fun To Do’s—because if you don’t schedule them in these fleeting summer days will
pass us by and in December the kids will ask me yet again why we didn’t make
ice cream.


Love To Do’s—this will be my stop-and-smell-the-baby’s-hair-and-don’t-you-dare-

Thanks, guys. I get my best ideas when I’m thinking through, because it’s for you.

Latest Update–What have I been doing?

What have I been . . .


I finished book three in the Beyonders trilogy. Very good. DD 15, Hubs and I enjoy read quite a bit of YA lit. One stand out line was “sacrifice is giving up something good to get something better.” I enjoyed the excitement of the story, but it is the struggle to be selfless and to cling to faith through trials that will bring me back to this book.


Removing clutter. I have gotten rid of a few things, but there still seems to be too much. I am overwhelmed.


Our living room has made some strides toward becoming nice. I donated an exercise bike, moved furniture, and made a plan to make the sewing machine accessible. There’s more work, but its getting close.


Fall high school courses for DD15. I’m also planning to let her drive more. I have to put her need to learn about my own comfort (and safety–ahem).


Lots of weekly outings to our local Drive-In! Yes, you heard me right; we have one of those!

Not planning to fix?

Typing. I can’t blog in the dark, ‘cause I gotta look at my fingers!

Promising myself I’ll do?

Clear off my desk, blow up my Mother’s Day hippity-hop, write in my kids’ journals. Seriously, why do I put that off?

And what do I wanna do?

I want to start tomorrow like it’s a whole new world! Like Miss Hickory, I want to graft myself into a whole new life of vitality and usefulness. (Just finished reading that book with the littles tonight, too.)

So, in case I don’t see you, . . .good afternoon, good morning, and good night!

Shiny, New Cleaning Lists

As the first year anniversary of our move the this apartment nears, I realize I have never updated our “Detailed Cleaning Lists”. Youch. How did I let this happen? I think we were in mourning over our move.

Whatever it was; it is now rectified. I have brand new shiny lists! But let me back up a minute. Perhaps some of you are as yet unfamiliar with the illustrious FlyLady and do not, therefore, know about “Detailed Cleaning Lists”. If you haven’t heard about her and your home, office, car, or finances are less than perfectly clean and organized, do yourself a favor and check out her site.

FlyLady spring cleans “the Yankee way”, meaning a little at a time throughout the year.  “Detailed Cleaning Lists” are just lists for each of the rooms in your house itemizing what would be done if those rooms were to be deep cleaned to, not perfection maybe, but I’ll say, “Mrs. Cleaver approves” status. Which is lovely.

These lists are great for my kids: gives them something to check off, and they know what I mean by “clean that bathroom.” I’ve saved a sample of my before and after laundry room lists. One list is not better than the other. It’s just that the rooms are different.

For example, spider webs were a big deal at our last place, an old house surrounded by huge trees and wilderness. Here there are no trees around the house and likely fewer ways for them to get in and hide if they were about, so I took sweeping cobwebs off the top of every single list.Detailed Cleaning Lists

What’s YOUR secret to a clean house?


Top Reasons I Don’t Blog at Night

I’ve been blogging every day for a few days now and I usually do it after the kids go to bed. There are some very important reasons that this is a bad plan.

  1. I’m sleeping. This is only true most, not all, of the time. But when it is true, it 100% prevents me from blogging. Thank goodness, because if I telepathically blogged my dreams, you all would be seriously sick of hearing “Why Do Fools Fall in Love?” and seeing me try rhubarb muffin recipes. No joke, that’s what I’ve dreamt all week.
  2. I’ll be cranky in the morning. Oh who am I kidding, I’m cranky in the morning no matter what. Just ask the kids. Just ask my husband who is standing in the hall with a size 8 women’s slipper stuffed in his mouth staring at me as I walk away mumbling, “stinking yakkity-yak morning people.”
  3. I don’t want to wake up the baby. I sleep with the 2 year old who has a startling sixth sense for when I’m out of bed. It’s uncanny. It must be the tug on those apron strings that wakes him, funny I thought those were to keep HIM in line. There’s also the 5 year old who comes into bed anywhere from midnight to 3am, and strictly maintains a full body press throughout the rest of the night.
  4. I dislike typing with my thumbs. If I’m going to blog from lying in bed, it has to be from ye ole smartphone. Bah. I prefer good old two finger hunt-and-peck. “What about actually typing?” you ask. R-i-i-ight. Like there’s this magical way of moving you fingers and 70 words a minute will appear. Look Buddy, hunt and peck was good enough to get me through a Bachelor’s in English. Besides, I’m 40 years old for Pete’s sake!
  5. My editing skills diminish. Add hazy midnight brain to the above reasons and I’m persuaded to postpone wee hour posts. Hey, at least three people who read this blog actually know me in real life. This isn’t just some Ethernet exercise I’m doing here. I might see these guys in the grocery store, and how would I explain ghastly grammar and pitiful punctuation? I have to be able to hold my head high, and I’m not talking cabbages.

Now here are the reason(s) I do blog in the middle of the night.

  1. I’m inspired with something I just have to say. (Sorry this wasn’t the case tonight.)
  2. I have to write something, anything. Sometimes you aren’t living up to your potential, and you have to take a baby step toward “back on track.”
  3. Umm, there is no three. Either I have to say a specific thing or I have to say anything as long as I say something. It has to be a pretty strong urge to get me to write. Just don’t publish till morning—that’s the rule.

Have a nice day, and thank you for your support.


Avacado Bread = YUM!

Some of you know that I’m an ardent admirer of Bountiful Baskets Food Co-Op. I’ve been volunteering as a site coordinator for nearly three years. In that time I’ve learned to use a lot of produce that I had never encountered before such as green chiles and persimmons.

Avacado had only been  used for guacamole up till now. But we don’t eat much guac at a sitting and I don’t like trying to store it. So I surfed up a recipe for avocado bread. Come on, of course it exists, this is the internet we’re talking about.

My kids have yet to turn up their noses at a bread or even better a muffin recipe I’ve used to get rid of some produce. I realize it isn’t the healthiest way to serve them. But hey it’s good enough.

Here is the link: http://allrecipes.com/Recipe/Avocado-Quick-Bread/

I put the avocado in my food processor and beat it a bit, then pureed all the wet ingredients in there. I wanted it smooth. And it was smooth. Mmm, like Santana.